My husband will consistently criticize my daughter, keep telling me that she will not do well in school, will do drugs, get pregnant and drop out of school. He doesn’t however stay at home with our child. I couldn’t get anything more out of him; he shut the conversation down after that. She has promised me that she will work harder to … My 12 yr old and her step father can't seem to get along. Maybe some Counceling would help him , and you also, because you can’t do everything and take the burden of fixing everything yourself . I’m not sure what to do. My husband, Dr. Mikol Davis, a geriatric psychologist, and I put our efforts together at AgingParents.com & AgingInvestor.com. But in October 2013 it didn't work out for him, obviously being so young, he asked to come back. LISTEN: This Glorious Mess on raising an 'unusual boy'. It makes it hard to bond and enjoy the experience. I wouldn't change it for anything. We always said we’d have lots of kids, and that’s something I still want. I posted at 5m about my husband and how he hated being a dad. 829 829. He’s totally changed. However, slowly things are improving and its starting to get easier. Post continues below. My husband and I have been married for 3 years and we've been together for 12. I hate the thought of spending any time responsible for them, and I hate the idea of being an absent father. I hate children, well any kid that isn't trained properly to behave like a human being. Being a stepfather requires daily energy and lots of work. Watch: Dr Ginni Mansberg's philosophy on parenting. We have 3 children 5, 4, and 1 month. Like Like I’m crushed, and I’m so sad for our son whose father regrets him. But being a dad has taught me what love and family is all about; my daughter Ella has shown me how to see the silver linings in the world. I’ll tell him I hate him. I don’t have much support but I have sought psychological help and it’s slowly making a difference. about this. My son is 2 years old and the past few months he has a really negative attitude towards his dad. Thank you for being a steward of hope. You aren't alone. I think if I was a husband without kids, that would be pretty challenging. My husband also breaks things when he is angry and has occasional depressive episodes. When we were first married I was less spiritual than I am now and he was more. It might have been the insomnia, lack of appetite and crippling loss of resolve I felt each day as a dull, nameless ache in my being. One day I came back home there was blood on the wall, my husband bitten my son for going outside to play when we told him not to. Hi moms. Well, don't worry. He had told me, throughout our marriage and the last month, that he wasn’t changing. By Syd, 5 years ago on Being Married. I can't see any way forward. It's really upsetting my husband and also getting to me too. And I walk away a lot. When we were going through IVF, it seemed he wanted it even more than I did now. Being a passive husband is detrimental to the family, the marriage, and the kids. We struggled for years with infertility and had to do multiple rounds of IVF. I do love my wife, don’t get me wrong, but I definitely appreciate my family, kids, the whole family life.” The partnership I envisioned was not the one he wanted. I can’t talk to my wife, friends, parents, etc. Thank you for making space for their father. I can’t just pack up and leave. Advice. 10 things your husband really hates about marriage. I want to emphasize that being a stay at home dad is a really, really tough job. So this might be a short term phase. Take a look, On Motherhood: Working full time with one kid, How To Help Your Child When They’re Being Bullied, Ten Ways To Get Involved In Your Child’s Education, The Little Boy Who Couldn’t Stop Being Angry, Raising A Child With Special Needs-You Are So Brave, Mama, Using Storytime As Comfort During COVID-19. I try to give him as much baby-free time as possible. Sometimes the sound of the baby crying makes me so furious and I’ll just tell him to shut up. My husband was upset with my son for hitting his son in the arm. Concerned they are going to make their wives mad, they tiptoe around and avoid issues. He retaliated in a very violent way, by picking him up by the arm and thrashing him around the room and then picking him up off the ground by his throat. I admit I brushed this off a little as it was in the early days, and I thought he might need to adjust. She has a 76% grade average. We had our first child earlier this year, a beautiful boy who is now 6 months old. Expand. 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